Organizing Your Life

You can take time to go through your closets and organize things that have been lying around for a while, but you may not know how to go about organizing your life. While your home may be in order, your mind may be a mess. If you have children, work, a spouse, friends, and hobbies, you probably feel a lot of stress when things do not go right. While you may not always know what to do and when to do it, you can do a lot to help with organizing how you are feeling, what you are going to do, and how you are going to stop things from getting out of control in the future.

The first thing you can do about organizing your life is to admit that you are not a superman or superwoman, and that you can not do everything all of the time. This means you have to learn what is most important and when you have to say no to someone or some thing. This is hard for some people, but is especially hard for some women. When the PTA calls, we want to make sixty cupcakes, but that does not mean this is something we can take on. Instead, we say yes and the stress builds while we feel more out of control than ever. For your own sanity, it is time for that to stop.

Start by thinking about what you have going on in your own life that can not be changed. If you are raising children, organizing your life is going to mean things that include them are going to be center stage and can not be eliminated from your schedule. However, you can alter some things. You do not have to drive your daughter to every ballet practice if there are other mothers with which you can take turns driving. Instead of going twice a week, you can drive once a week or even once every two weeks. Not only does this help you with organizing your life, it helps other parents do the same.

Next, you have to learn to cut down on things that are stressing you out, even when they are making others happy. If your husband has his friends over once a week, that is great for him, and that is something that he should have. However, organizing your life means making him take care of most of the details when you have something else that must be done. He can order out instead of asking you to make sandwiches for everyone, or he find things to do that do not require you to do much. Tell him you will help if you have the time, but you may not so he should be prepared. This will take a lot off of your mind.

Learning to say no is a big part of organizing your life. You can take on each project that someone offers, but you are soon going to be stressed and enjoying less and less in your life. You can take a few things on that mean a lot to you, but do not feel that you have to say yes to everyone. There are always going to be other people that can help when you can not. Once you have taken steps towards organizing your life, you are going to start to feel a whole lot better about saying no and limiting things that have been the biggest problems for you. Someday, you may even stop feeling guilty about it!